What is the key to happiness? Are you happy?

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What is the key to happiness? Are you happy? Do you enjoy the journey or are you looking forward to the end?

You can apply these questions to any part of your life. Are you enjoying studying or are you just wanting to get your Certificate/Diploma at the end? Do you enjoy traveling to a destination or do you just want to arrive? Or maybe you are a person who thinks if only I had a better job, life, more money…..then maybe, just maybe I will be happier. Often we have planned, worked hard and want to reap the benefits but we end up missing out on the journey.  We are more stressed, depressed, lonely and anxious.

Sonja Lyubomirsky, a psychologist proposed that roughly 50 per cent of happiness is determined by genes (i.e., totally out of your control), roughly 10 per cent is determined by circumstance (i.e., somewhat out of your control), and the final 40 per cent is determined by your thoughts, actions, and attitudes (i.e., entirely within your control). Lyubomirsky found that if a person savoured life’s pleasures and lived in the present moment they were happier. It’s no great shock that being more optimistic, more grateful, and even more physically active can lead to greater happiness.

Happiness is not something that comes easy to many people. Others cant make you happy and it takes practice.

How to practice happiness: 
  • Don’t suppress your emotions
  • Invest in you
  • Make time for yourself
  • Do what you love
  • Exercise and get fresh air
  • Give back to others
  • Volunteer your time
  • Laugh every day
  • Foster great relationships with others
  • Most importantly start with gratitude

In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish the good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.

If you would like to learn more about the Science of Well-Being, Yale University offers a free online course https://www.coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being